Couples Therapy

FOr all stages, orientations & cultural backgrounds

Esther Perel famously says:

“The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.”

I work with couples, and other relationships, because I believe that our satisfaction with life is directly impacted by the depth of connection we feel in our lives. As humans, we are wired for relationship. It is how we create a sense of safety in this world. And yet many of us did not always have healthy, loving dynamics modeled in our homes as children. We observed other patterns - silent and chaotic - and found ways to feel loved, avoid hurt and get our needs met that can still show up in our intimate partnerships as adults.

My work as a therapist is to help you tend to any past wounds that are impacting your current relationships, so that you can create new relational patterns from a place of trust, understanding, and authentic connection.

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My Modalities

gestalt therapy

Gestalt therapy emphasizes personal agency in the here-and-now. Through bringing our awareness into the present moment, we can resolve ‘unfinished business’ from the past while making choices in service of our present selves. 

somatic experiencing

SE is a body-based approach to resolving trauma. By increasing body awareness and build capacity for self-regulation, SE supports the integration of past traumatic experiences to create more freedom and choice in one’s present moment experience. 

Attachment Theory

Attachment theory helps us understand how we connect, and where we get stuck. It takes us back to the roots of how we engage with our loved ones, and offers the opportunity to forge new ways of relating that feel secure, compassionate and filled with integrity. 

I work with couples of all stages, orientations & cultural backgrounds.

Whether you’ve been dating for a few months or parenting together for years; whether you’ve reached what feels like the end or simply want to enjoy deeper intimacy and understanding. Here is how our journey together may unfold:

Explore

In our early sessions, we will collaborate to identify the dynamics that keep you and your partner from feeling the level of connection you both desire. We will explore where it feels easy for you two to come into contact, and where you both get stuck. During this stage, we may also identify needs and desires that have not been met, and begin to hold how these may be communicated and integrated into the relationship.

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Expand

As we progress, we may begin to touch on past traumas or challenges that have impacted the relationship. These challenges may have stemmed from your particular relationship together, or events that preceded it. In my experience, these moments are rich with opportunities for personal and shared healing and growth. They have the potential to be corrective and expansive; allowing us to complete "unfinished business” of the past, and step into new ways of being, together.

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evolve

My hope is to support you and your partner in your journey of deepening together and finding an expression of your relationship that feels expansive and secure. Whatever your goals are, I aim to be an honest, attuned and compassionate guide.

Evolution in a relationship can look like doing “the work” and walking away feeling closer and more committed. And, it can also look like coming upon the hard truth that going your own ways is the most loving thing to do. If this is what we discover, I promise to support you both with integrity and care.

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CouplesTherapy

reciprocity

$185 / 75-minute session

location

In-person (BOULDER, CO)
or virtually (zoom)

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nature option

We have the option of taking our session into nature

Questions

  • At this time, I do not accept insurance.

    As an Out-of-Network (OON) provider, I am able to provide you with a monthly Superbill for you to submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement of out-of-pocket expenses.

    Please contact your insurance company directly for information regarding your eligibility and reimbursement rates.

    Here are some questions you can ask your insurance company:

    1. Do I have out-of-network benefits?

    2. What is my deductible?

    3. At what percentage will I be reimbursed?

    If you choose this option, please note that a mental health diagnosis is required and will be listed on your Superbill.

  • My policy is 24 business hours of notice if you need to cancel or reschedule prior to our scheduled session.

    For example, if we meet on a Monday, I ask that you notify me by your appointment time on Friday.

    If you cancel within the 24-hour window, I charge the regular fee for the session, because it’s time that I’ve set aside specifically for you and scheduled others around.

    If major sickness or life events happen, I am happy to discuss whether it feels appropriate to charge or not on a case-by-case basis.

  • I typically find it most effective for a new couple to come weekly for at least the first month. This allows us to gain clarity around what’s going on and form a strong foundation for our work together.

    The duration of therapy is ultimately different for each couple. We can discuss this in our sessions together, and assess what feels right for you based on your goals and needs. Ultimately I will support whatever frequency works best for you both.

  • After we schedule a session, I will email you both the initial paperwork through your client portal. It will come from Night Sky Psychotherapy via Simple Practice.

    Please complete the paperwork at least 24 hours prior to our session. If we are meeting virtually, you will receive a link to our session. Once you’ve completed the initial paperwork, there is nothing else you need to do.

Field Notes

  • "Confidence to make meainginful shifts in my life"

    “Sydney’s compassion and grounded presence helped me reconnect with my sense of worth and clarity. She has a gift for deep listening, guiding me back to what mattered most, and giving me confidence to make meaningful shifts in my life.”

    - Danielle

  • "Beautifully held space to process intense grief"

    “Sydney has such a genuinely kind spirit, and beautifully held space for my wife and I to process intense grief. She helped us communicate our needs and feel more connected outside of our new motherhood roles. We’re truly blessed by her work.”

    - Tina & Ashley

  • "Wisdom and skill that invites long lasting change"

    “Sydney’s ability to witness and transform, particularly in her specialities of couples and young adult focused therapy, is striking. Her work brims with attentive curiosity and a wisdom and skill that invite long lasting change. I recommend her work highly.”

    - Laura

  • "Feeling more Connected to Self & Other"

    “I've had the honor to co-facilitate a group with Sydney. I saw, first-hand, her innate compassion and curiosity for her clients. If you are looking to feel more connected to Self and Other, I would highly recommend working with Sydney.“

    - Austen

  • "Authentic, Honest, an emotional gift."

    “Sydney is a remarkable therapist. Her authentic and honest style allows clients to trust her and open up quickly. And her ability to meet people “where they are” emotionally is a gift. She is a friendly and effective professional. I am grateful for her.”

    - Jason

  • "She brings deep presence & safety to relationships"

    “Sydney is a warm, grounded therapist who brings deep presence and safety to her relationships. She supports others through challenge with compassion and insight, and has a strong, intuitive understanding of the healing process. I highly recommend her!”

    - Emily